For those with a loved one who is suffering from some sort of memory loss, such as dementia or Alzheimer’s, being around someone and caring for someone who has trouble remembering who you are can be devastating. For years, you have lived with this person who is often your mother, father, or grandparent and to see them slip away before your eyes is truly something no one should have to deal with.
Serenity Gardens is a memory care facility with three locations in Texas: Dickinson, Friendswood, and Deer Park. We focus on creating a home-like environment for our residents, emphasizing community by sharing meals together and allowing pets. Family is always welcome at our dementia care home. Below, we’ll offer up tips on how to cope with the long good-bye period.
What Happens During Alzheimer’s?
Alzheimer’s disease is a slow loss and degeneration of cognitive skills and memory. As the body declines, so, too, does your loved one’s personality. However, usually the cognitive and memory aspects go first, leaving years of your loved one still living but having no memory of you and often of themselves and their former lives. Many loved ones describe it as seeing just a shell of the person who is left.
Thus, it is often easier for loved ones to begin the process of letting go before their loved one’s body has actually passed on. For many, instead of a sudden loss, it’s a gradual loss, one that happens before your eyes. You know it is inevitable, but it doesn’t make it any easier to watch your loved one become a stranger.
Psychologists have names for these processes. Anticipatory grief is mourning the loss of someone before they actually die and ambiguous loss is dealing with someone who is no longer psychologically or socially present. If you are the caregiver of your loved one, this is a daily process that usually does not get any easier with time.
Talk to Someone
If you are the principal caregiver of a loved one suffering from Alzheimer’s or dementia, you should be receiving care as well in terms of therapy. Not only can you easily become overwhelmed with the caregiving, but your feelings of loss before your loved one’s death can be debilitating as well. You should be seeing a therapist regularly in order to healthily process your feelings.
Consider Memory Care Assisted Living
When you partner with Serenity Gardens in Dickinson, Friendswood, or Deer Park, we can help take at least the primary caregiving off your plate. It is often easier for a non-relative to care for someone with memory loss because the bond is not there. It also gives you some separation from your loved one suffering from memory loss, so it is easier on you.
CONTACT SERENITY GARDENS TODAY
You should never feel guilty for feeling like you need some space from your loved one who is battling dementia and alzheimer’s disease. Serenity Gardens offers your loved one a feeling of home in Dickinson, Friendswood, and Deer Park so you can breathe easier. Call us today for more information!