Your father has been adamantly opposed to the idea of any type of help, other than you. However, you don’t have the kind of time to devote to him as you would like. You may have a full-time job, you might be dealing with children of your own, and you may even go to the gym every day, hang out with your friends, or pursue other hobbies.
All of that is fine. However, he may see it as being that you are simply not concerned about his well-being. That’s not the case. You’ve been talking about other senior care options, including assisted living.
Many seniors may refuse to even discuss the prospect of assisted living and they might do it in a number of different ways.
He might be telling you no.
This is the simplest way to refuse something. Tell somebody, ‘No.’ It may sound like the discussion is over right then and there, but you have no idea why he’s not even considering the prospect of discussing this as an option for his future. Now is the time to find out more about it.
When somebody turns and walks away from a conversation, they’re essentially trying to control the conversation. They may not feel they have any other recourse besides walking away, thus cutting you off from whatever you have to say.
It may be a disrespectful thing, but there could be a very good reason your father is turning to walk away from the conversation anytime you bring it up. What you may need to do, instead, is take a different approach.
Shouting you down.
When people have no real argument against something, yet they don’t want to hear what you may have to say, they might have a tendency to shout you down. They get angry and boisterous. This is intended to intimidate you.
If your father is nervous about something, maybe understanding his own limitations but not knowing how to deal with them properly, he may shout you down.
If you noticed your father crying when you bring up the topic of assisted living, he most likely has certain misconceptions about it. He may think it’s nothing better than a glorified nursing home, but that’s completely inaccurate.
You may need to explain first what some of his friends may be doing if they are living at one of these facilities. Explain the benefits, the activities he can still be enjoying, and that may help him start seeing things from a better perspective.
If you or an aging loved one are considering Assisted Living in Pearland TX, please call and talk to the caring staff at Serenity Gardens at Dickinson: (832) 315-3219 or
Friendswood: (832) 895-3448.
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